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The Second of Four Types of Love

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Affectionate, chosen love — rooted in friendship, trust, and understanding


Phileo


No One Is Perfect


That is why understanding

is so important.

Phileo love is an affectionate,

warm, and tender form of love.

It is a platonic love —

the kind that draws us toward friendship,

connection, and shared life.


It is the love that brings warmth

and liveliness to agape love.

For while you may hold agape love

even for your foes,

you cannot hold phileo love

for the same people.


Phileo love is how you ‘feel’ about someone.

It is a chosen love —

committed, intentional,

and deeply personal.


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A Commitment Spoken


Janelle,

my love for you runs deeper

than you can conceive.


My commitment to our marriage,

and to you,

has proven that my love

is true and sincere.


I wake each day

feeling better and brighter,

yet we must continue

this journey together —

one that will repair

what has been broken

at the foundation.


Understanding the different types of love

helps us see the role each one plays

in a marriage meant to last.


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Thank you for the good times


we have shared —

they have been the best part of my life,

especially seeing you as a mother.


Walking through the wilderness

of our lifetime together

should make us stronger,

more committed to restoring

our spirits of genuine love.


What I Hold for You


True love conquers all.

The love that God holds

for each of us

is honest, genuine, true, and pure —

and because of that,

He will never forsake us.


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My dear Janelle,

that is the love

I hold for you.


Sometimes a person has to go back; really back;

to have a sense, an understanding

of all that’s gone to make them

before they can go forward.”

Paule Marshall


Understanding is deeper than knowledge.

There are many people who know you,

but very few

who truly understand you?


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